Talking's good
Well talks are underway here in the Clutters household. Hubby turns 40 this year, I think he's a little scared about this, maybe a lot scared. He's questioning his life, he's questioning his future. He really doesn't know what's going on. Talking about things has helped me a bit, I know he doesn't know why he feels like this, I know he's hoping that in a week or so he'll wake up and say "what the hell was all that about" and everything will be fine again. He's wondering whether to book into a hotel for a few days to see if some space will help him. I'm happy for him to do this if it will help him work out what is going on in his head. I don't feel as shut out as I did earlier in the week and I'm starting to feel more positive, or maybe not more positive but certainly less like I've been hit by a truck!
Does anyone have any experience of this kind of thing? I want to help hubby but I don't know what I can do.
Anyway, onto happier news, my sis is back from her hols! I'm looking forward to meeting up with her in the week for a bite to eat & a catch up, I want to hear all her stories about dancing in the snow and how much falling down she did when she was meant to be skiing!
Does anyone have any experience of this kind of thing? I want to help hubby but I don't know what I can do.
Anyway, onto happier news, my sis is back from her hols! I'm looking forward to meeting up with her in the week for a bite to eat & a catch up, I want to hear all her stories about dancing in the snow and how much falling down she did when she was meant to be skiing!
posted by Aims at 3:38 PM
12 Comments:
Have him do the go away thing for a few days. Sitting in a hotel room by yourself is the definition of "lonely". He may come to the conclusion he doesn't like it. We all have milestones in our lives, real or imagined-but never wallow in it.
I just got caught up here, sorry that you are going through a rough time.
I was also the one who went through the midlife crisis crap, it seemed hubby was always the one who knew what he wanted and who he was, me, on the otherhand was walking around dazed and confused.
One thing, he never gave up on me, even when I was at my worst behavior, he kept pursuing me, loving me, even when I didn't feel like I deserved it.
He may not be perfect, but I am glad he did that.
Marriage is hard! I know what you mean. That is all I wanted to say. I know you know this. Take care of yourself. A bubble bath always helps me. Maybe you should try one.
(HUG)
That's a tough time for anybody. At that age milestone, many people do a review of their life as compared to where they thought they would be. Lots of listening to him might help, but take good care of yourself too!
Damn! That's what I get for not blogging on the weekend...I'm so sorry I missed this....and my chance to offer my well wishes to both of you.
Marriage is the hardest thing I have ever done...and there have been some times where I was ready to "throw in the towel" but if you two stick it out...and listen to each other, be there for each other...you'll be just fine. :)
Yep we will meet up and you can laugh at my stories - grrr and you wonder why I enjoy being single lol.
Its good that you are talking, I don't know if being apart will do any good but if that what the both of you think.
You could try electro-shock. Itell him to hold two wire for second and run off to turn the switch on.
I think he will come to his senses if not there is plan B.
a frying pan upside the head usually works at least that's what my mother thinks
Take care :)
He'll be okay.Its just a little scary realising your getting old and wondering what you have done in the last 40yrs.
wehn i turned 40, i went to ireland. it probably was the BEST thing i could have ever done. that way it wasn't about getting older but having fun!
NOW i suffer but what can you do...? that's the conundrum of life. or shall i say the bummerish of life...
OH dear I am so sorry this is happening to you. It very hard to watch something like this happen and to cope with it too. E-mail me if you want to chat
How are you doing ? thinking about you
Hi-I know you have many telling you to do this to do that and you are feeling like doing nothing. I am not here to offer you advice just to say I care.
I have been where you were but it was not my husband that created the problem, I was. I can just be thankful he realized what we had was true---and today what we have is not perfect but it is beautiful.
Just remember there are many who are here to supposrt you, listen to you if you need it.
Just know we care.
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